Coaching from a fellow sensitive millennial who gets it
Hey there! I’m Rani Gupta, MSW
My origin story
On paper, my career was everything I'd worked for. Multiple job offers fresh out of grad school, advancing in my clinical role, leading trainings, managing complex caseloads. I became the therapist other therapists came to for advice. But here's what nobody saw: I was working 10-hour days at what turned out to be a soul-crushing job while my closest friendships slowly died from neglect. I could facilitate breakthrough sessions for clients all day, then go home and have no idea how to text my own friends back. I was an expert at relationships—just not my own.
Everything shifted when I finally honored what I'd been teaching my clients for years: you can't pour from an empty cup. I left that soul-crushing environment and for the first time, I had space to appreciate the parts of myself I'd always been told were "too much."
Things like doing a happy dance during a delicious meal, laughing so hard I got hiccups, reading a captivating book in contemplative silence, or wearing my favorite band t-shirts to meetings. Instead of hiding these quirks, I realized they were connected to my greatest strength—my ability to feel deeply and read people with precision. That intuition everyone wanted me to tone down or dismiss? It's exactly what makes me exceptional at helping other sensitive professionals stop shrinking themselves and start owning their magic.
After nearly a decade as a social worker helping countless clients navigate relationships, plus my own journey from people-pleaser to boundary queen, I know exactly what it takes to transform friendship patterns that aren't serving you.
If you're reading this thinking "Holy shit, that's literally my life," then we need to talk.
A photo of me, taken by a dear friend, several months after I left the aforementioned soul-crushing job lol!
You know how to be a good friend, but you're questioning everything after that brutal friendship ending. You've done therapy. You've read the books. You know you deserve better friends, but somehow you keep ending up in the same patterns with new people. You're successful at work, but your friendship life feels like a mystery you can't solve.
Maybe you're the one always initiating plans, only to realize your friends never reach out first. Or you've tried to address something important and been met with defensiveness or the silent treatment. Perhaps you're tired of friends who respond to your promotion news with, "Must be nice" instead of genuine celebration.
Here's what I figured out the hard way (and what I help my clients discover)
Your sensitivity isn't broken. Your friendship picker isn't broken. You're just finally done accepting crumbs.
When my clients invest six months with me, some pretty incredible stuff happens:
They stop making excuses for friends who can't handle their success and start attracting people who actually cheer them on.
They go from overthinking every interaction to trusting their gut about people.
They become unavailable for one-sided emotional labor and somehow—like magic—their friends start showing up differently.
By month three, they're texting me things like, "I had to cancel plans with Sarah because she's been weird about my new job, and you know what? I'm totally okay with having canceled." By month six, they're saying, "I never knew friendship could feel this supportive" and excitedly tell me about their new ride-or-die people.
This work is a six-month investment.
Because honestly? You're not paying for coaching sessions. You're investing in becoming the version of yourself who knows exactly what she deserves and never settles for less again.
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Bachelor of Science, Journalism
Master of Social Work
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Certified in Integrative Somatic Parts Work (trained by Fran Booth, LICSW through the Embody Lab)
10+ years in the field of social work